Sage Parenting

Circle of Security Parenting™ (COSP)

Please be patient while we search for the best facilitator to run this course while the kids are out with Matt and Brown Dog!

We are hoping to offer this service some time in 2019. 

While the kids are out on their adventures with Matt and Brown Dog

The parents have a 90 minutes to sit back and relax…

Or, they can use the time to learn all about how they can create deeper and more secure relationships with their child by participating in the Circle of Security ® Parenting course. 

Each of the 8 sessions of the world renowned Circle of Security ® Parenting course take 90 minutes.

It’s a perfect fit.  

Welcome to the club

To all parents who sometimes wonder…

 … why some days with our kids are so much harder than others

… why some bed-times or meal-times feel like a lost battle from the start

… how a birthday party can end in tears

… why loving and sharing with siblings or friends just doesn’t always come naturally to our kids

… why drop-offs can sometimes be so sad and at other times easy as pie

… how they have lost an argument with their 2-year old

… what trick to use next time to get their child into the car-seat, wear a hat or sit quietly through their sibling’s school performance

… where the “mute” button is and

… how we’ve ended up with such a clever, beautiful and loving tiny human in our care that just adores us no matter what.

 Welcome to the club!

All parents want the best for their child and all parents find it hard to be their best some of the time.

Laughing father holding baby son

From the moment they are born children are telling you exactly what they need from you in order to feel safe and secure.  Circle of Security® teaches you how to read and respond to those signals. 

Circle of Security offers a framework, an image and some language that helps us understand what our children are “asking” us at times when their behaviour seems to make no sense and we can find ourselves at our wits end. With the Circle of Security in mind, it is easier to respond to our kids in a confident, effective and kind way that helps the whole family to move through the days and nights more smoothly and with a sense of connection and capacity as a “good enough” parent for our precious children.

A tour of the  Circle of Security® in about 4 minutes

Who are we?

You’re in safe hands with Matt Hynes.

He is trained and experienced in running the intensive version of Circle of Security® (sometimes known as the 20 week intensive course). The intensive version requires:

Intensive training,

Intensive supervision, and

Intensive experience (more than two years!)

It’s… intense.

Not many COSP facilitators are accredited at the intensive level.

You get the benefit of all this training and experience when you join our shorter, 12-hour version of Circle of Security®, COSP.

What happens in a session?

Each of the eight sessions is a combination of learning, reflecting and experiencing.

Each session builds on the last.

You will arrive with your child and spend the first 15 minutes together with the other families, Matt and Brown Dog. Then, when the kids leave for their adventures you will be invited to pour yourself a cuppa and find a chair. The room is a homely space, adorned with comfortable leather couches and posture-friendly chairs.  Our facilitator will take you through the course material in the Circle of Security ® Parenting course. By the time your child returns you will know a little more about how to read and support his or her attachment needs. 

The course is a balance of:

1.  Introducing you to the underlying attachment pattern of all children (the subtle signals that you need to read and respond to in order to fulfil their attachment needs).

2. Showing you video clips of real parents reading and responding to their children – and what happens to behaviour when they do not respond appropriately.

3. Allowing you space to reflect on what you have learnt and seen. Inviting you to imagine how you can apply the principles to your own life with your own child.

4.  Holding you in the safety of a secure relationship with the facilitator. Your own attachment needs will be held and respected as you journey through the course.  You will experience the type of relationship that we would want your child to be able to experience with you.  This is actually  where the real  learning happens – where it becomes embodied. You will feel it in your bones.

You cannot get this from a book!

Practicalities

This Circle of Security ® Parenting course is for the parents of the particular child enrolled in a mentor group with Matt. It is also open to other caring adults who have a direct role in the raising of that particular child (e.g., grandparent, legal guardian, step parent, This course is not for the general public. There is a maximum of six participants in each group. Each participant must commit to attending each session of the 8-session course.