To all parents who sometimes wonder

… why some days with our kids are so much harder than others

… why some bed-times or meal-times feel like a lost battle from the start

… how a birthday party can end in tears

… why loving and sharing with siblings or friends just doesn’t always come naturally to our kids

… why drop-offs can sometimes be so sad and at other times easy as pie

… how they have lost an argument with their 2-year old

… what trick to use next time to get their child into the car-seat, wear a hat or sit quietly through their sibling’s school performance

… where the “mute” button is and

… how we’ve ended up with such a clever, beautiful and loving tiny human in our care that just adores us no matter what.

Welcome to the club! All parents want the best for their child and all parents find it hard to be their best some of the time.

Circle of Security offers a framework, an image and some language that helps us understand what our children are “asking” us at times when their behaviour seems to make no sense and we can find ourselves at our wits end. With the Circle of Security in mind, it is easier to respond to our kids in a confident, effective and kind way that helps the whole family to move through the days and nights more smoothly and with a sense of connection and capacity as a “good enough” parent for our precious children.